When we are encountering a challenge we tend to operate mostly from a fixed mindset. It is because in these challenging situations our mind is trying to protect us, trying to not have us be hurt. So it just goes back to the rules it has always understood and that gets us to operate from what we know.
Here is a question that may help you in these times:
Is this challenge is an obstacle for my progress or is it here to show me opportunities to grow?
It can put you in the state of seeing the difference between your mind finding explanations about the world being against you while you just can’t do anything about it and being able to progress and grow from it. It can show you how and where you may limit yourself or operate from a negative mindset.
Now you can give yourself a chance to see it as a growth opportunity if it really is.
The next question is not for everybody but some could find it as a breakthrough:
Is life happening to me or through me?
This question can give you the chance to switch from being a victim to being a creator. From a victim mindset we lose any kind of responsibility or control over the situation that we’re dealing with.
If we think that life is happening through us we suddenly feel control and ownership towards what’s happening in life, hence we have control to change it if we want to. This perspective empowers us and encourages to take action. That can shift completely how we approach life today.
Here is one more provocative question for you:
Do you think that you’re growth oriented? If yes, where is your growth plan?
If there is no plan our growth becomes reactive, we lack of ownership and proactivity. If there is no growth plan then how do we know where we are headed in life, in business, in relationships? Do we really just want to grow as a consequences of external circumstances?
Let’s make a growth plan to see the direction of your travel.
The last ones for today:
Did your plan fail? Does that mean that your plan failed or you started to feel like a failure?
Yes, there is a huge difference. Don’t take full responsibility for your plan’s failure or success because it depends on a lot of things.
If your plan fails, it’s not you. If your actions fail, they’re not you. You are not a failure. Understand that a plan’s failure is not a personal failure.
Move on, make another plan. Keep your growth mindset.
If you keep hitting the wall, ask yourself:
What small action can you take to get one step further?
Now just focus ont he next step until you’re out of your struggles. Forget your expectations, forget about the big outcome and forget about your huge goals now. You’re hitting the wall. Focus on the tiniest action you can take now.
See? There is always a way to move yourself into a growth mindset but first we need to be aware of our current situations, current mindsets. Keep the growth mindset and keep doing the work.